I have the unfortunate issue of no matter what I’m thinking, I tend to speak it. The phrase or terminology my neuropsychologist used is called “no barrier”. While that's great in many ways, in others it is not so good!
How many times guys, have we men always said we liked what the significant other was wearing, looked like, cooked, or watching on tv, when inside our mind its not what we think? Now no disrespect to any women I’ve been around, but men, we know inside we might not have been telling them what we truly think, so not to rock the relationship boat!
Now like I said, having no barrier to keep within ourselves what we are truly thinking can be a huge problem, just ask my wife Cyndi! I’ve hurt her without wanting to ,all due to speaking what I’m thinking. Now I will tell you this, though, its a positive when it comes to communicating in other areas.
When my 1st wife filed for separation and divorce, some very serious charges were brought against me. What she, her family, and attorney were not aware of was if the allegations where true, with this injury it would worked against them.
I really appreciated the Judge over our case, for he decided to put her allegations to the test one way or the other, by having both of us getting tested by a serious sexual and pornographic mental test , that unto this day ,that test offended me!! Let me explain that test.
I had to strap different probs to my chest and my penis. And in my right hand I had to press a button every time a nude picture of a child or adult came on the screen regardless of gender. Then I had to wear headphones at the same time, and to listen to a offensive porno story that was in line with the pics that flashed up.
Not only did I pass as a healthy, normal heterosexual man, but the doctor even apologized and said this is what was needed to prove one way or the other if those allegations were true. Guess what, they weren’t!
But the fact I have no barrier was great proof as well! Like I said there are both positives and negatives to having no barrier. I’m blessed with whom I’m with now, but still it can be a pain for her, sorry Cyndi!
